Homework Is No More a Battle
For many kids, doing homework is a tedious task. It becomes a constant battle every day that may destroy the emotional relationship between the child and his/her parents. The more parents oblige the kid to do his/her homework, the more he will continue to resist.
One reason why your child may refuse doing his/her homework is because you keep insisting on him/her to do it and if he/she puts little efforts on it, you ask him/her to do it over. Many kids do not consider homework a pleasurable activity; that is why they need to relax and play with their friends before starting their homework. This way you enable your kid to set his/her own time for homework and not to consider homework an unpleasant task.
So, here are some tips to make sure your child’s homework is enjoyable and fruitful.
· Tell your kid that from now on he/he is going to take the responsibility of doing his/her own work. It is his/her work, not yours.
· Let your kid assume the responsibility of handing in sloppy work. It is an issue between him/her and the teacher. Of course, you need to explain to the teacher that you will be no longer helping him/her, because you want him/her to be responsible.
· Encourage your kid to start with the easiest tasks that he/she can enjoy, and to have the hardest task at the end.
· If your kid cannot do the homework because he/she finds it too difficult, talk to the teacher about it.
· Give advice to your kid and make some suggestions, but do not try to do your kid’s work.
· Teach your kids that the purpose of homework is to learn how to do things independently.
· The teacher should be the judge of the quality of your child’s work. So, do not insist on your child to do it over. It is the teacher’s job.
· Talk to the teacher about how long the homework should usually take. If the child cannot complete the work in the time available, then, he may be having a learning difficulty.
· In case your child is having a learning difficulty, talk to the teacher about the possibility of having a modified homework.
· Some kids prefer to work in a quiet area, while others enjoy working while listening to music or at the kitchen table within sight of an adult. There is no rule about what works best.